We live in a reality where it’s not easy to solidify alliances and cocreate from a place of sanity. Where to focus our individual attention and in which direction shall it go? How to apprehend these big themes of our life stories, processes that are bigger than our individual stories: working on self-empowerement, self-validation and reclaiming our intuitive gifts? There is no miracle pill : despite working extensively on codependent patterns and closing many doors, one can witness that it is still playing out in new disguises, bending energy to play with guilt and shame programming; making sure to keep the individual small and constrained. Relationships are being used as our main handlers, to direct the way our energy, attention and time are being spent.
The importance of self-validation
As long as we haven’t dealt with our own pain, we are not able to face what the painful reality here is really about. We need to get in touch with and accept to feel the pain, the rage, the anger, the unprocessed emotions within us to give them a chance to be integrated and processed. Something like covert emotional, psychological and spiritual incest does exist and it does affect much more children than it seems. Enmeshment turns a lot of inner psychological, emotional, physical and spiritual structures upside down and it’s necessary to work on putting things back in their organic aligned order: self validation is extremely powerful, to fortify the pillars within ourselves to resist censoring ourselves. Clinging to receive some sort of approval is one of the roots of codependency. What is happening when we are compassionately validating everything others are going through but a certain level of accountability and reciprocity is missing? Consciousness and truth are to be valued above everything else. Whatever we need to fortify within ourselves, whatever action we need to take, we may do it with grace, walking the path with integrity and dignity.
Some will use dance, performance and choregraphy in order to experiment their first glimpses of safety. When there is so much turmoil, insecurity and pain inside, it can be a first step to put everything that we would feel embarrassed about on stage, feeling the pain from others, crafted and articulated with poetry, sounds and lighting in an esthetic way. This is juicy material but the pain is not held while we are not sitting through the discomfort. Somewhere along the way we need to stop to integrate and not making an art piece out of it. This coping mechanism of dissociation allows us to switch off, it’s a survival technique and a way to bypass our own suffering. On the other hand, creative expression can come from a place of righteous indignation which finally allows letting of emotions out. Expression in itself can be very liberating, having censored ourselves for so long. Dancing is a way to release emotions held for too long in repression, not censoring that expression that is in us anymore can be extremely liberating. As a second layer, much shame may come up to surface about what happened and what was expressed. After this primal expression comes the sense of responsibility to share from an integrated place with time to process and alchemize internally.
Developing strong, fierce, tenacious and firm boundaries is crucial, not only for oneself but also for other members of the community, keeping the space clean from egotic pulls and drama settings. Some do not show a lot of evolution, something is in the way for them to see through the lies and the deception. Measures have to be taken in order to protect the space, the energy, the time and the attention from being drained especially when there is a lack of accountability and responsibility. This journey is definitely about quality over quantity. Who will really benefit, see, integrate, spend time with the shared content or the practice? Who is truly ready ? Who is truly willing and willing to be reminded when they are playing out their unconscious shadow patterns ? They are a lot that are feeding from what is being put out there, we may feel a grabbing. Energy is being drained, through what is happening.
The importance of walking the talk
It’s not about claiming one understands, it’s about the embodied experience and walking the talk from a place of integrity. Many considered as mentors or spiritual leaders are living a life based on a lie and not walking their talk, despite whatever they might pretend they are and whatever they pretend they are experiencing. A lot of narratives are built and designed out there to capture attention and consciousness and feed from the fascination. Most of these narratives are dead ends. When communities are formed online, we are missing information provided by the body intelligence and intuitive knowing about what it feels to be around these people. The body is not able to share the red flags shouting to run the other way. The disguise may vary; there is a different angle of the kaleidoscope that is being played out (savior programming in the ufology scene, in politics, self proclaimed gurus, external authority, controlling energies especially from an overpowering intellectualism and head-centric way of thinking). It all has to do with giving our power away and to wait for something to happen outside of ourselves. The real effective work is about reclaiming new layers of trusting our own compasses.
The importance of protecting our psychic spaces
It can be an act of great love to turn the back on some despite the fact that there is love for them. The reason is that something greater is waiting for us and we know it. It’s calling us so deeply, it can not be ignored. It’s complex and it’s not a well understood position because others tend to make a lot of interpretations on the real reasons behind such a position. And that has a lot to do with their own wounding or their own choices of denial or jealousy. This work includes letting go of people (generally simulated by the hologram) who are psychically hostile, the ones who want to debate in an unhealthy manner or people who want to have power over us with an overwhelming intellectualism and many other layers of disguise. These are characteristics of how the parasitic consciousness functions and are a representation of how the unconscious in people is used to drain time and energy to slow down spiritual evolution and the manifestation of creativity in our lives. While we are handled in controlling and authoritarian spaces, we are censoring ourselves and we are censoring many facets from the truth that lives inside of us.
Being connected to what lives inside of us and being connected to our peace does matter and it does have an impact. Then this impact is spreading and rippling, making a real change in this realm. Each consent that we give away does profoundly matters. As soon as we withdraw it, it comes with a reaction from the system. It does matter. It does matter infinitely. It does all the difference. It is a gamechanger, a lifechanger. We need to trust in our own power and reclaim it from being used for agendas that are not in our highest interest. Even something as simple as preparing a balm or a natural homemade cream is so beautiful and multidimensional: there are so many levels to it and it just ripples in the beauty that it is in the field of reclaiming human health.
Separating from the lies
It quickly starts to become an ethical problem to keep in touch with this lie within the person that they do not want to acknowledge or take responsibility for. An internal conflict is being experienced and it comes with the need to place a firm boundary and to protect psychically from whatever might be working through their broken parts, which tends to be very controlling. It does matter that we are connected to truth or lies. Lies keep us away from parts of our truth, it keeps us looping and it’s in the way for us to reach our wholeness. False empowering stories that emanate from a place of lie do affect us negatively unconsciously as they are in the way from our own empowerment. Although false narratives can provide intellectual insights, I do not think we need them to evolve spiritually and that it’s good for us to be in touch with this kind of inverted material. Life is dimmed and controlled when we are paired up with controlling energies.
There is no shortcut to learn the full spectrum of discernment and becoming a master at recognizing energy signature. Many times, one has to go through the experience; after many learned lessons it’s easier to spot parameters and learn to trust ourselves, gathering the red flags around the signs of mind control. We can and sometimes, we can not, save ourselves the time and energy spent navigating the tricks and traps. We can make sure we are learning as much as we can as we go: the common denominator of these intrusions is within ourselves. What does healthy relationship feel like? What about secure attachment, re-parenting, reintegration of alters and communication that heals? When we don’t know any different, it’s easy to get sucked back into another version and variant of an unhealthy dynamic. It can be incredibly confusing and debilitating. It takes time to identify and discern and it takes practice to develop strong boundary skills. It takes time to trust our own feelings and make room to choose ourselves first.